With all the self help books out there screaming completely different ideologies, it’s hard to find the middle ground. Some claim giving it all up, having a million children and moving to the country side is the only way to find happiness. Others swear that only after meeting a laundry list of personal goals will ever feel as it they have become enough to be worth something. Having a balanced life however, is the only way to go without feeling the strain of pure overload.

First, find a balance at home. Learn that you cannot be all things to everyone. If you truly love yourself, love for your spouse and your children will flow from that. Do not try to dominate or be over bearing. Understand that if you make an honest attempt at connections and love, people will respond in the best way you could have hoped.

At work, strive to do the best that you can. Accept projects if they excite you and you really think you can put forth your best work without driving yourself into the ground. If something becomes to much or is out of your reach communicate that with those around you. Reaching out to get something done correctly isn’t a negative, it shows maturity and intelligence.

Become the best you by giving of yourself to things that make you happy. If you love gardening, then plant one and make it beautiful. If you love books, volunteer at the library. If animals make the difference for you, take time to walk dogs at the local shelter. Grant yourself the permission to do these things you enjoy and allow your spirit to be comforted helping the planet, people around, or animals in need. Sit back and reflect on your life. Turn chores into blessings and blessings into cheer for everyone.